GENESIS 3: 12….Then the man said, “The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I ate.”

13 And the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?”

The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”

When things go wrong there is always the tendency to look for the cause and typically blame someone for what has gone wrong.

God asked Adam a direct question. Did you eat the forbidden fruit but he answered by blaming his wife. Notice that at this time she was called WOMAN not EVE. She in turn blamed the devil.

Most times when we are caught on the wrong side or when we failed at something the tendency is to push the blame on somebody else. This is a weak human reaction and we must not quickly succumb to blaming other people for our mistakes or failure.

If you often blame others for everything wrong rather than owning up to your shortcomings this can lead to ineffectiveness. People who easily shift blames on others become weak in analytical thinking as they quickly assume it’s another person’s fault rather than thoroughly investigate the matter.

Blaming others is a weak position as it shows lack of control. Rather accepting the fact that something has gone wrong and there is a need to look inwards to find out where one went wrong or could have made a better decision will ensure future success.

Blaming others is a sign of pride and self-defense or being defensive. When God questioned Adam and said “where are you” he should have answered rather he became defensive and tried to justify his hiding away. On further questioning by God in Gen 3 v 12, Adam blamed the woman forgetting that he had a choice he could have refused his wife’s suggestion. The woman too blamed the serpent.

Being quick to blame someone else negatively impacts our relationships and can make us err with God especially when we wrongly accuse others even in our innermost minds. Have you ever being in a situation where you are missing something, could be your jewelry, money and instead of taking time to look for it, your mind is fixated on some one that you think must have stolen it. …..